Etiquette for TTC/Infertility

http://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/10-ways-to-support-a-friend-who-is-infertile/

This has a beautiful passage that I will share below, or you can read the whole article through the link above. There is also a small list of things people should and should not say when talking to a person who is TTC, and having fertility issues. I completely agree with all of these.


"The pain [of infertility] is similar to the grief over losing a loved one, but it is unique because it is a recurring grief. When a loved one dies, he isn’t coming back. There is no hope that he will come back from the dead. You must work through the stages of grief, accept that you will never see this person again, and move on with your life.
The grief of infertility is not so cut and dry. Infertile people grieve the loss of the baby that they may never know. They grieve the loss of that baby who would have had mommy’s nose and daddy’s eyes. But, each month, there is the hope that maybe that baby will be conceived after all. No matter how hard they try to prepare themselves for bad news, they still hope that this month will be different. Then, the bad news comes again, and the grief washes over the infertile couple anew. This process happens month after month, year after year. It is like having a deep cut that keeps getting opened right when it starts to heal."


10. Don’t Tell Them to Relax
9. Don’t Minimize the Problem
8. Don’t Say There Are Worse Things That Could Happen
7. Don’t Say They Aren’t Meant to Be Parents
6. Don’t Ask Why They Aren’t Trying IVF
5. Don’t Complain About Your Pregnancy
4. Don’t Gossip About Their Infertility
3. Don’t Push Adoption (Yet)
2. Let Them Know That You Care
1. Remember Them on Mother’s Day