A New Approach!

I posted this idea of mine on the TTC and Infertility support group I am part of a few days ago and after some unfortunate news, along with some positive news, I decided I'd share it with you all as well, in hopes of it bringing some sort of hope or motivation to those of you struggling with this. You see, my husband has a high sperm count but low motility and high abnormal form. I was diagnosed with Anovulation and after 4 years of TTC, we have started to realize we might not ever become parents. It is draining and it's ruining my life to be so negative and to have given up hope. So we started doing the following more and more and you know what? I feel better about the future now. I've also been placed on Clomid while the Hubby takes FertilAid for Men, so here's hoping. Anyway, if nothing else, it's worth a try!


After studying psychology in college, I am obviously intrigued by the mind. I have been discovering new forms of healing for things like TTC and Infertility. It's mental, and it's apparently worked for people for things like curing diabetes by exercising and losing weight, giving up smoking, etc.

Something I have recently started is to do things to prep for having a baby, before I even conceive! So many of us women are so used to telling ourselves we can't get pregnant or it's not happening, etc. We instead need to be optimistic. One way of tricking your brain into making your body do what you want is through slow, small steps that progressively aim towards the goal you wish to receive. For example: I want to get pregnant. So, I've started doing little things in preparation for having a baby. A few things you can do is to buy some baby clothes. Not a lot and not too often. Something small, inexpensive, here and there. Maybe buy a baby bottle one week and add it to a "baby" bin. (something devoted just to your future baby) A couple days later, you see the baby section at the store. Instead of quickly walking away because it's too painful, walk over proudly, look at the things you would get if you were already pregnant. Maybe buy a pair of socks or a onesie, or a pack of baby wipes. I plan to buy a baby book. I plan to start writing letters and putting them into the baby book so my future child can read the struggles I went through to conceive him/her, and how much he/she means to me. I also bought a frame the other day. The frame is aimed for my mother and that's all I can say in case she is reading this! lol

These little things trigger a response in us. Our bodies are programmed to listen to our brains. As you're reading this, your brain is telling your eyes to move to each new word. It happens instantly. Think about this: we are so used to receiving negative HPT's and heartbreaking news that we almost lose hope. Our brain listens to what we say and in turn, over time, our body responds. I have said out loud and to myself for the last 2 years that "we aren't going to be able to have a baby. I'm giving up." and what do you know? My body has listened. I'm not saying this a cure in ANY way, but hell, it's worth a try. And best of all? It's positive, it's inexpensive, and it allows us to keep our dreams in our lives.

I made a promise to myself, my husband and our future child that I will no longer say "We can't." Instead I will say "We will." And dammit, I will make myself believe it. I will do good things for my body. I will pray, practice yoga, take my vitamins, and slowly, build a collection of things for our unborn child. When that times comes for us, it will be that much more amazing.

Thanks for reading friends. XoXo